Archive - We Can Stop Being Abusive

How to Change Abusiveness on a Practical Level

At the end of the day, we need to get beyond talk, and get our hands dirty in the work of being kind in everyday life + An Invitation to the on-demand…

Sep 10, 2022 •

July 2022

You are worthy of love, nurturing and support

Your efforts to stop hurting the people you love are precious and essential

Jul 18, 2022 •

March 2022

How to have a gentler voice inside

And help the emotional abusiveness subside (+ a flower analogy)

Mar 31, 2022 •

January 2022

Week by Week is How We Change

You're invited to join the "Get Unlooped" support and coaching group for people who want to stop being abusive and stop being abused.

Jan 7, 2022 •

September 2021

A Little About Shameful feelings

Someone asked if I still feel ashamed + Survey Deadline September 10

Sep 7, 2021 •

July 2021

You can back down from being angry

A new evergreen video resource on how to stop abusing and how to stop being abused

Jul 19, 2021 •

April 2021

How to self-measure your emotional abusiveness

A couple of tools to adapt so you can track your progress

Apr 18, 2021 •

February 2021

Question: My partner wants to break up. What should I do?

Answer: Keep working on stopping your abusiveness

Feb 4, 2021 •

October 2020

Getting better at not being abusive? Is not a part-time job

Thinking "it's not so bad" is a mistake, and will get in your way, so it's time to let that go

Oct 13, 2020 •

September 2020

In the future, you're someone who's no longer abusive

3 reasons you may be finding it hard to stop right now, and ideas for that

Sep 7, 2020 •

July 2020

That upside-down feeling when you first recognize your abusiveness

What's important and precious about your aha moment and what to do with it

Jul 26, 2020 •

Two Perspective Shifts about How Abusive Behaviour Works

Hint: It's not about isolated incidents or the roof falling in because of a ‘banana’

Jul 21, 2020 •

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