You can back down from being angry
A new evergreen video resource on how to stop abusing and how to stop being abused
I feel mixed emotions sharing this with you, but here it is:
My life has gotten a little busier the last 6 months supporting some very special clients 1-on-1 to stop their abusive behaviours. It’s been remarkably rewarding because:
Through focus, compassion, determination and evidence-based approaches, they’re making real change. I heard that one of the spouses said to my client:
”Wow, you’ve never backed down in the middle of being angry like this before. Whatever you’re doing is really working.”
This is of course exceptional, because as you likely know by now, I believe every minute, every hour, every day that a person can NOT be abusive, is powerful, meaningful, and worth striving for. (And it really IS possible to back down in the middle of the argument!)
So why would I say I feel mixed emotions? Mostly because it means I haven’t written more consistently to you here at We Can Stop Being Abusive. But! This also means I’ve gotten creative about making some evergreen resources for you, which I want to share today:
‘How to Stop Abusing and Stop Being Abused’ is a one-of-a-kind series of videos I did in collaboration with Karen McMullen - now watchable on YouTube.
In this series, Karen interviews me in detail and we cover:
- how to tell if you are emotionally abusive
- how to stop being emotionally abusive
- how to handle triggers
- removing the shame and stigma about being emotionally abusive
- and how to stop being emotionally abused.
Already, this series is reaching thousands of people and I pray for it to keep gaining momentum. It’s nice to feel hopeful about the effort people are making to stop or reduce their abusiveness.
If you or someone near you grapples with emotional, psychological or verbal abuse, I hope you’ll watch the videos all the way through, and share with loved ones.
Please like or comment, or, hit reply if you’d like to share more privately, including if you feel ready to work together in a non-judgemental space with a coach who’s been where you are.
A big thank you to Karen for this collaboration, and the joy of sharing this mission to change the culture around approaches to emotional abuse. A video series like this really helps people share this message and I wouldn’t have been able to create it without you! <3
Click on any image or video title to start watching:
“Am I Abusive?”
The First Step
Emotional Triggers
Wanting to Change
Why People Stay
Until next time, when I have some more tools and resources for you…I am sending you…
Love and respect on the path to peaceful living,
Andrea
P.S. I finally have a more detailed page at my website about what it’s like to work with me on this topic, here. I’d love your feedback on these new resources - it helps me understand what to create next. Just hit reply to let me know your thoughts.