Books, Habit Change Tracker, Online Course, Coaching

A short but effective list of resources and support to stop being abusive

Looking for resources for you, or someone you love, as you do the work of stopping abusive behaviour? Here are a few. Please share if you have first-hand experience of others. Thank you!

New! “We Can Stop Being Emotionally-Abusive” On-Demand Video Course

This accessible course is available 24/7 and you can get started within minutes of signing up. It contains 13 lessons with accompanying and worksheets and help making a plan for your healing journey. Led by Andrea and Karen. More info here.

A Selection of Books

Engel, B. (2003). The emotionally abusive relationship: How to stop being abused and how to stop abusing. John Wiley & Sons: This book is a great one, especially if you’re in a relationship that’s actively working on things together.

Chapman, G. (2008). Anger: Handling a powerful emotion in a healthy way. Moody Publishers: This is another powerful book that helps you understand anger in an unconventional way.

Wexler, D. B. (2020). The STOP Domestic Violence Program: Group Leader's Manual. WW Norton & Company: This book is for you if you love exercises and worksheets. It’s designed for a leader of groups, but you can be a leader of your own group of one. Dr. Wexler’s work was instrumental to me in getting unstuck.

A Simple Habit Change Tracker

Don’t Break the Chain: Use this free calendar to mark off each day that you aren’t emotionally abusive. A great way to start a new habit.

A Comprehensive Guidebook and Free Online Course

The Ananias Foundation: This organization has a comprehensive free guidebook and online course that supports your behaviour change. The course is unique in its supportive way that focuses on your ability to change. It is not a batterer’s intervention program, and it is evidence-based. Get started with the guidebook immediately and then keep an eye out for dates of their next online class.

Coaching support and 1-on-1

And finally, I am available for coaching support if you’re looking to work with someone who gets where you’ve been. To explore this, first have a read of my article in the Washington Post and other articles on this site. Then email me at andrealeeonline at gmail dot com and we can book a time to explore whether we’re a fit. Or, you can consider the new video course available here.

Got additional resources specific to the journey of stopping abusiveness? Please share in the comments. Thank you.

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